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Reddit aita pool neighbor I(36m) and my wife(34f) recently bought our first house. AITA for not helping my neighbor with her kids after her husband left her Background info: My husband and I (late 20s M&F), have lived next to Jack and Jill for two years. It's a very nice pool. There's a empty house on the block and we take turns rotating cars in the drive so it 100% find the most gossipy neighbor and ask because if my neighbor said, 'oh neighbor won't let us borrow their custom wheelchair mobility van that they've been graciously letting us borrow over the past 18 months for two weeks (out of state?) so we can go to Disneyland because they need it for their elderly parent, I would not be on their side. I am scared to do anything near the house, so much so that I clench onto something or get ready to protect myself, if she does anything. I wouldn’t want to deal with the insurance nightmare if something terrible happened either. A new couple moved into the upstairs suitefriends of Rob and Olivia, let's call them Peter and Joni. It became clear that it was coming from underneath the wooden planks of the deck that surrounds my pool. They neighbor should not go onto your property without your permission unless there is reason to believe someone or something is being harmed. Before FIL sold the house he got a pool to have in the backyard. She was at the pool steps, stumbled in but didn't fall so only got half wet. Town A where I teach and town B where I live are not neighboring towns, but they are within 20ish minutes of I told neighbor 2 I would possibly keep taking care of the pool next year (this summer now) if their family friend opened and closed it. and Mrs. Not only does the pool need a gate with a lock, but you need cameras, No Trespassing signs, and to increase your Homeowners liability insurance. First few times I just returned the puppies thinking it was an accident, Jan said the mom dog can open the fence. Sometime back I was at a pool, and a kid was being rude and hitting/hurting others with the toys, and I finally told him to stop. This week she texted me (30 F) out of the blue and asked me if I would watch her kid. The neighbor was rude to assume her kids were included in the invitation. Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. Neighbor 2, the roommate texted me today asking if I would be opening the pool because family friends wife is very ill. My community has a pool. 1: I removed my neighbor's stuff and I took it to the dump to be disposed of. I am a private person and need my alone time. Anything the neighbor may have 'added' to the fence is property damage at best. Guests use the pool I will typically give them some privacy and let them enjoy the backyard unless I might need to pass through on the way to the garage or whatever. I was wondering if you would be willing to swap with me for XYZ reason. OP wanted a fence and is entitled to a fence. Honestly, I didn't think it was a big deal. AITA or is it reasonable to be upset about a neighbor letting their dog hop in a shared community pool? My spouse (45) and I (46) bought a house on February with a pool. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I put up a ring camera and fenced up in my backyard five years ago. He does get a say on who uses it Neighbor just walking in and using a pool in upper yard = even more liability bc your pool isn’t properly locked up if there’s not a high enough fence, liability due to attractive nuisance, liability if someone is on your property and gets hurt. somewhere I could buy a party package where the facility did everything, and all we had to The neighbor is also overstepping boundaries by texting him throughout day, and interrupting family time. I haven't responded yet. She blows up at me and says I invited her at the beginning of the summer. Kid is now 22 and is on the way to becoming a police officer. She has her own freaking woods and can clear a path for her kids to the creek just like I My understanding is as follows: inconsiderate and selfish neighbor willing to sink tens of thousands of dollars on a pool places loud equipment right by OP’s living space. "AITA for refusing to let ‘Karen’ neighbor use my pool after she demanded I follow her pool rules?" So, I (34M) live in a suburban neighborhood with a decent-sized backyard and We fit in the neighborhood, or so we thought until neighbors from 3 surrounding homes and us got into a weird conversation around their expectations to access the pool for weekend and holiday pool parties. I am usually a very private person. The boy and girl then started to ask me for the pool and I said that if their mom wanted to get them a pool, she could do it herself. She would drive around the neighborhood, so weird. Drowning can happen very fast and very quietly, and all it takes is a little distraction. Suuuure they did. When my friend got home he found unopened cases of beer and two rafts. Read this before contacting the mod team. The previous owners of our place were an elderly childless couple who were well known in the area for basically being grandparents to everyone and the husband had built multiple tree houses and bridges in the trees for kids to play in. His response, "I'm just a kid". Full disclosure, I once had a similar situation. I told her no. It's a non HOA single family home. I told him I was visiting and to come back later. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I could be the asshole for yelling at them to get out of my driveway even though they were just using it for a minute. The pool neighbor asked a while ago (like over a year ago) for us to remove the whole thing completely and sounded like they were joking but had a bit of truth behind it, and haven't mentioned it since. My neighbor was in my garden with his tiller. The pool was tilted and the plastic is not stretched out so it was alot of wrinkles on the bottom. I made that assumption in good faith though, as I assumed only a kid would have so little sense of boundaries and right/wrong as to invite third parties into your house without your prior approval. Posted by u/[Deleted Account] - 18,439 votes and 2,140 comments And send her a bill for the approximate market value of the produce that’s gone missing along with a “no trespass” order signed, notarized and sent via certified mail (keeping copies for their own records) so that the next time she comes “shopping” in OP’s garden they have their ducks in a row to royally fry her ass. my wife and I bought a beach house last June, it’s a 4 unit community that shares a pool and common area(lot of land) the community is made up of 2 sets of townhomes. We also followed this up with a letter to the neighbors and informed that the kids were not allowed to play, dig or draw on our property and sent it certified mail. They don’t, he’s just assuming they do. So yesterday being my day off by chance, I spoke with the by-law officer and my wife and myself are trying to comply with what the order said. And yes, my family does skinny dip. I wasn’t involved and wasn’t happy with it. OP just needs to inform the neighbors she doesn't want them to use the pool. Early this week, I noticed a funny, skunky stench that was lingering around my swimming pool. . Your neighbor can take her son to the public pool for his swimming routines. By helping himself to your hose, your neighbor is, in effect, letting you pay for his water usage. AUTOMOD The following is a copy of the above post. I looked around to see where my kid had gone. 4K votes, 459 comments. Then shitty-neighbor starts inching into my space. It got progressively worse, starting to smell like something rotting. Last year, the puppies and mom dog would get out of the fenced yard and run around the neighborhood. AITA? My neighbor has a VERY small back yard (but very large front yard). It’s a small cul-de-sac and I always wondered why the neighbor didn’t just tell us that had happened instead of calling the police. My neighbor is a second homeowner and used to get the first service but after seeing me put out three bins, he realized I was paying for the better service. It killed her Chihuahua. Grabbing a package is not out of the ordinary for a neighbor who is also a friend, but you need to know your neighbor won't mind. We have a son who’s six years old, and they have two kids who are a similar age, but a little bit older. Maybe text This man allowed his 14-year-old female neighbors to use his pool whenever they needed it for swimming practice. They have a large hill on the property that is great for laying out, so my best friend and I often hangout there during the summer. We've recently had some issues with people using the pool after hours. Well, sort of. My neighbor across the hall, a woman around my age or a little younger (I actually don't know her first name but I'll call her Katie) lives across the hall from me diagonally and has for about 2 years. Don't feel terrible for saying no. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I might be an asshole because I yelled after the neighbor tried to defend her actions Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ If her parents are happy to have her enjoying the neighbor’s dog and pool, and you’re behaving in a responsible and appropriate manner with her, her parents get to make that call. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I called Adult services on the son of my elderly disabled neighbor because he was not seeing about her. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I feel like I might be apathetic to my cousin's struggle with having a Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Peter and Rob had worked together, although not currently. Totally get it’s may not be this easy. So, some random stranger broke into your house, messed up the floor and drank your vodka. I got annoyed and went down to talk to my neighbor about it and she got really nasty with me, and blamed me and my dogs for “always” waking up her baby. What you do with your driveway is completely up to you. Our house has a pool in the yard, it's really nice since it does get quite hot during It seems likely that other people complained to the HOA president when the other neighbor was having their pool built, and the president contacted that neighbor asking for a schedule, but the Posted in r/OhNoConsequences by u/tommy2tone222 • 186 points and 15 comments Neighbors demanding a couple relent and allow public access to their swimming pool are being criticized on Reddit. And it IS his pool, too. On Halloween I had a quick convo with Neighbor 1 (who lives next to me) who had heard we were getting a pool, which I confirmed was true. I didn't say anything about it since I'm not using it anyway. F her. Stop!" He looked at me like he'd never been told that before. Instead, she was in the pool surrounded by green water. It was a very nice relaxing day and by 1pm we wanted to lay down by the pool and take a nap. Sounds like your neighbor might have the AITA for Telling a neighbor to “Learn to read dipshit?” Not the A-hole I 38M live in a condo, it’s 12 stories in a downtown area with about 150 units. Reddit has made these changes with no regards for their users, as seen by the sheer lack of accessibility tools available in the official app. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. If you don’t pay your fines, you loose all privileges to utilize the pool and other activities in the community. X and we did not want them to do this. Essentially, they were trying to steal your driveway for their Similar issue with an entitled neighbor. After they and the guests left, a neighbor came over and was upset about the nudity. This reminds me of another AITA story a few years ago where a neighbor’s kids were sneaking onto a new homeowner’s property to use his pool because apparently “the previous owner allowed it”, and when he found out about it he put a lock on the gate to keep them out (because, hello, huge liability). OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: AITA for involving our lawyer when the neighbor wouldn’t respond to us directly with requests to move her fence onto her side of the property line? Enter my neighbor, “Karen” (fake name, but fitting). OP may feel justified but it is unnecessarily hurtful. I struggle to believe that someone who bought a house wasn't aware of whether it had a driveway or not. It's your property. I (24F) was taking him for a walk when a neighbor who was cleaning his pool next door complimented the puppy saying it was cute. Our neighbor whom we don’t really have a super relationship with other than friendly Hello’s outside, a quick wave or nods from the deck and quick chats. I'm a 31 year old single guy who lives alone in an apartment complex. He said I told him he could do it and I said even if I had, I didn’t tell you to cut my tree down or anything else. My neighbor was really sad, and when we took it to the mechanic, the repairs would cost more than the car, so it was not worth it (my sports car takes most of my money anyways, I live with not too much things nor luxuries except my car, I am not exactly rich). I’ve talked to Karen multiple times about this, but she just brushes it off with, “Kids will be kids. This comment is a record of the above post as it was originally written, in case the post is deleted or edited. If one of those kids drowns in your pool, you will have the pants sued off of you. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my neighbor and her HOA to stuff it and leave after they complained about me using my house's fireplace. The neighbor was going to come up with a million spurious reasons not to agree to a fence (noise, child injury, eyesore). So, AITA? I have been in my house about five years now. Reddit has done this with no regards for the 3rd party devs, who by Reddit's own admission, If I’ve learned anything about swimming pools from AITA, it’s that there are many differing opinions on whether dunking people, throwing unwilling people into the pool, etc is acceptable behavior, & I wouldn’t necessarily trust someone else to make those decisions for me, especially when they are distracted by trying to host a party with a variety of things happening. The problem was that he was in such rush to put up the pool that he didn't do it properly. We keep for ourselves. By the way, if you ever felt like you wanted to occasionally babysit for her kids, I would let her know your hourly rate for both kids. The neighbor again said that Mr. They just had to wait a little for me. Lawn neighbor asked us last week and we had a That's a good point. I do hope you’re closely supervising her in the pool, though. And, no, if you take reasonable precautions to ensure safety and someone gets hurt you are not necessarily liable. " NTA- I had a neighbor who just "happened" to be out in his backyard anytime my daughter (P. My 9 year old neighbor found the necklace while I was showing the kids my room and really liked it, and asked if she could hold it. even if she hadn’t done AITA for calling my neighbor entitled and implying that shes racist? Not the A-hole This account is a throwaway because I dont have a Reddit account, but I often lurk around this subreddit. A pool has to have security measures that prevents children from getting in to them unsupervised, since drowning is the leading cause of death of children. That's complete asshole behavior. I also called my neighbor a Karen in an argument. I have a pool in my backyard. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) laughing at my neighbor after suggesting I should trade apartments (2) my neighbor seemed genuinely upset that I laughed at her and told her to report me to the Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I yelled at my neighbor who let her dog poop in my flower bed, next to my front door, when there were many other options 2. We had a tragedy in my neighbor where a child drowned in their neighbors pool and the neighbor's going through all kinds of hell, being investigated and possibly being sued for not I 29F live with my husband 30M in a nice house in a smaller town. I understand you were upset. Our neighbor is now upset because he “doesn’t have access” to his fence, that he would have to come in to my yard to access anyways. AITA for not cutting down my 25+ year old southwest appropriate trees and cacti so that tree leaves, blossoms, and needles don't blow into my neighbor's yard? We've lived in our home for almost 25 years next door to neighbors that have a swimming pool. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I don't feel I've done anything wrong I was only concerned for my safety and the safety of others in my building. Posted by u/teijinator2000 - 7,144 votes and 298 comments Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Its usually groups of 15+ people at our small pool, doing barbecues and playing music for hours. If so, ask building management to have security do a check once an hour, after-hours, on weekend nights. Even my child free/not good with kids self could manage an hour watching a 5 y/o to help a neighbor who's also a friend in an emergency. They're more rare than giant pandas! E2: here's a video of her drinking in slowmotion We are talking about a car break in. When my friend said what party he replied the party going on in your pool right now. I don't appreciate uninvited visits, interruptions and TLDR: my neighbor across the street is mad about an old pool in my drive way. When I tell her I am not comfortable being responsible for them and do not want them at my pool (I'd be financially responsible for the guest fee and damages caused by uncontrolled kids). Bingo! OP did nothing wrong and the neighbor is definitely the AH. We used to have a pool with lots of shade. My neighbor got upset over a different situation today and while talking through it they brought up all these pool issues from the past, claiming it cost the neighborhood collectively thousands of dollars to clean up after the pool guys. Your neighbor chose to move to Mexico, and then chose to be a rude, self-important idiot. I've (26F) been living in this same apartment complex for about 5 years now. There's a lap pool, a deep pool, a kiddie pool, a hot tub and a splash pad. They frequently ask for favors or requests to borrow our stuff probably knowing that we won’t say no. But again, that's hard to believe. We settled on this place because it has a huge backyard with an orchard at the back. There are no lifeguards on duty, although the office window looks out onto the pool and the HOA president likes to hang around and keep an eye on things. The husband is clueless, and needs to start distancing himself from her. A neighbor kept seeing them do it and told their parents. Even if the paint runs, it is OP's property and therefor OP's problem. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I had initially told Mike that I started bringing food to some neighbors because we had gotten friendly and occasionally helped each other out. I was shocked at first. But idk these projects have a way of drawing on longer than originally planned and my fence got kind of beat up in the process. I told her no and that I would keep my trashy pool in my trashy yard. I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a problem, just a pretty severe misalignment when it comes to the pool/having guests over/boundaries. I laughed and said "Yeah! I'm currently on the process of training him still but he sure is cute for such a troublemaker. We never thought to tell them to stay out of mailboxes. Please text me at (#) iif not and I'm happy to talk or move my car back if you're really opposed to it". Every time the fine goes up and then it’s eventually towed. At some point, his worker backed into my car but the dent and scratch wasn't that bad so I told him to be more careful and let it go. I looked around the crowd but realized that she wasn't there. She was clearly very unhappy about it but she didn't make a scene, just went over to where the parents were, grabbed their towels, dried herself off and left. We met first day of school last year as our kids are in the same grade, with the same teacher, and share a bus stop. I also think the shade would be a benefit. Memes allowed, shitposts only on weekends. We have a 6ft wall by our neighbor's house. If there’s anyone in the pool when security makes the rounds, security should take care it and hopefully no need to involve the cops and the pool can stay open for quiet, respectful late-night swimmers. Edit: I am 29F and neighbor is 30M I have a neighbor with whom I share a wall, and it's always pretty clear if someone is home or not. The pool is on the side of the house and can be partially seen from the street. We've had some noise issues, people leaving trash etc, enough that it was being discussed at our recent meetings. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Because these scenarios aren't the same. I also do Airbnb and my guests have access to the pool. We have a new 3 months old chow pup with us. Also I’m confused by the people who think an hour is a long time. In short, it's not very private. Last week I sent her babysitters numbers and she hasn’t even tried to contact them. We never have in the past. I felt disgusted. Your neighbor does not understand boundaries so you have to be clear that she can't resume her previous behavior. 11K votes, 894 comments. Letting anyone else use your pool, especially children while you're not home, is an IMMENSE financial liability. I(29f) am friends with my neighbor. Peter told Rob that he could take the pool down and grab his shit at his convenience but it needed to go soon. Should neighbor not relied so much on OP or taken OP help for granted - no and no; but OP should have used her words before she spewed in a fit of rage. I can't really be too mad at my neighbors tho because they were right in calling AITA for not apologizing after accidentally knocking over my cousin's It was just the 2 of us, her dad is a carpenter and he was with a friend, they were at a neighbor's, helping them build a porch for their house. I've lived there for 6 years. That happened to a friend as well. Next thing I know, an installer is knocking on my door letting my know he's going to lay cable across my driveway temporarily, and that they'll need to dig it up to go across permanently. Sounds like OP’s fiancé likes having guests over and doesn’t mind people using their pool whenever. So, AITA, or is my neighbor the a**hole? Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Find a case where someone borrowed their neighbor's driveway, had their car broken into, and then sued their neighbor. ” "Hi neighbor, I asked around and couldn't figure out who owns this space. Or hire a professional and have a discrete I was an asshole for assuming a neighbor babysitter and other neighbor's kids over using the pool = teenage babysitter. Last year, they had a pool party that got wild and ended up with people being naked. However, his Tinder date found it really weird that there were Well, the other day, my neighbor comes over all friendly-like and asks if they can use our pool whenever they want because their community pool is "too crowded. You are completely right to call him out. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my neighbor what i saw in the grocery store in intention of hurting her, wasn't planning to tell her because we're on bad term, if it's an acquaintance i would definitely The downstairs tenant did not answer the door, and after ten minutes, her boyfriend had to answer. Or "I noticed all those dandelions,I have a great way to get rid of them if you'd like. For some background, i understand access to a pool may be hard, especially during summertime in Florida, and I wouldn’t mind that they come so much but they aren’t respectful of the property. Not-the next door neighbor that had a key! Who would ever think it was the neighbor who had a key!? Next time you leave town, board your dog. He lives on the third floor, overlooking the courtyard. So a neighbor, we will call her Jan, has a GSD that had 5 puppies. The pool was eventually torn down, nobody used it since they didn’t want to get burnt. Have friends over occasionally and we enjoyed having people over for food, drinks, and of course swimming pool parties now that the weather allows for it. AITA for my neighbors possibly being evicted for their loud music? TL;DR: My neighbors have had bass music so loud it was shaking our walls and we constantly had no quiet space. I was definitely annoyed at this point. She did it because she thought her neighbor's yard was an eyesore and wanted it fixed. It can be a gate with a lock, pool cover that can handle the weight, or I friend of mine has a neighbor that has a pool with no security measures at all. You are also an asshole for not paying attention to your child (already addressed) and saying you would have physically harmed your neighbor had the police not been there. He came over and asked if he could add one bin to mine because he only had the one bin service, had lots of garbage that week. My neighbor didn't like this decision. I refuse to throw it away because he has harassed me specifically instead of taking it up with the home owner ( my father ) We had a blow up pool that my mother bought last Mother’s Day that we used during the summer , my father was pissed about it and told us to remove it from the backyard. We walked around looking for a spot and ALL the pool chairs had towels and personal items on them without owners in sight. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Asked neighbor to not use our driveway even though there's plenty of space in the driveway and she was allowed to use the driveway by the previous owner of our home. I lost it and asked what he was doing and told him to leave. Kids are dumb. So I live in an apartment complex where I have a garage and driveway. Said neighbor also also placed a fence not up to code on OP’s property without their consent. About 45 minutes in two of the kids ran at one of the neighbor guests who was standing next to the pool and pushed her in. So my mom confronted the neighbor mom and told her that they had to pay for a new fence because they broke it. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told neighbor lady she simply had no reason to use my trashcan, she ultimately told me she told her child to do it and I said that I didn’t care, it was still wrong and Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. She said they can hear every one of mine and my dogs footsteps and the dogs nails on the floor specifically, that my dogs bark the whole time I’m not home during the day, and that I put my music up too loud at night. We didn't discuss timing and that was basically the end of the conversation. Two months ago my neighbor was going door to door trying to find a guy who was walking a brindle pit that was off leash. Not that you owe your neighbor any explanation, but I know teaching is difficult, you have every right to enjoy your summer without your neighbors kids. But I do my utmost to avoid him and anyone else in my building because it really gives me anxiety to interact. Two days ago my neighbor and her kids (7M, 9F, 10M) came over our house for a while. While we were there, she had been on the They also have a big above ground pool within just a few feet from ESH: Your neighbor is an asshole because they shouldn't have lied and should have said something. He got a call from a neighbor asking why he wasn’t invited to the party. OP doesn’t have to befriend someone she doesn’t have much, if anything, in common with. In the 5 years I've lived here I haven't had We also got a shitty neighbor, Jessica, who likes to go around and snap photos of people's violations and then post it on the next-door app to shame them. Plus if you did take out the pool, his routine would be disturbed anyways, so, it’s a bit of a moot point. I looked up and saw people scrambling to climb out of the pool. I dont think I should have needed to consult my neighbor about continuing the fence on my property, but another neighbor that is friends with this neighbor says I should’ve consulted him first. 2: I got rid of her stuff without her permission because I didn't want it in my yard. OP doesn't have to capitulate to an entitled jerk. She prides herself in this thinking it makes the neighborhood better when she shames the Smiths for having a fence thats 2 inches too high, or the Johnsons for having light brown door instead of a dark brown door. Now the landlord issued a 7-day non compliance notice and said they can be possibly evicted. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I refused to help my neighbor with her frozen windshield wipers after her and her husband cussed me out, now my wife think's I'm an AH and should apologize. The OP could counter that the best land to use is at the very edge of the property or any unused section of the land that takes 15 minutes to drive around and not the finished driveway installed and paid for by him. Our neighbor left a note on our door saying they didn't want to see a bunch of naked people in our yard and asked us to cover it up. Karen has a son, let’s call him Timmy (8M), who is notorious for wandering into other people’s yards uninvited. If they were actually misled into believing your driveway was half theirs, I also struggle to imagine a legal system where they don't have a rock solid lawsuit against the real estate agent. 4. Go to AmItheAsshole r/AmItheAsshole • by EggsAndMilquetoast Colo-rectal Surgeon [34] AITA for throwing away a neighbor’s baby pool and hose? She bought a baby pool, placed it in the middle of the yard, and lets her lab mix splash around in it. Like who else would have broken it? Us while we were on vacation Posted by u/_Mr-Nobody - 48 votes and 34 comments Yes, it’s true that having a good relationship with one’s neighbor is generally preferable to an antagonistic relationship. NTA we had a neighbor that kept bothering us whenever we were outside. Reddit has made these changes with no regards for moderation challenges that will be created, due to the lack of tools available in the official app. " Offer to be a good neighbor but accept the response you get. This is the first instance - and for an hour. The people had just bought the house and it came with a rather large above ground pool. Obviously, you are NTA, but your neighbor sure is. I have a feeling these kids need to be told to stop as well. He says he’s offended by my two young kids being in the pool (we were in earlier with them) because they pee in the pool. The grandfather immediately jumped into the pool, but he also was unable to swim. Next year, there's this stuff called mosquito pool dunk. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I laughed at my neighbor and called them stupid before closing the door on About 45 minutes in two of the kids ran at one of the neighbor guests who was standing next to the pool and pushed her in. On the off-chance that you're in an area where there is no charge for water usage, then I'd say that it's still inconsiderate behavior on your neighbor's part. Apologize if you feel you should, but do it for yourself - Not for this neighbor. It seems the neighbor adked to come to my pool since she has no access to one. Or and I generally have a great relationship with my neighbors. Neighbor is a huge asshole but leash your dog E: Otterhound tax, a few photos of her over the years. Maybe a different neighbor jumped right to code enforcement instead of asking you what was up? Congratulations on the new baby! It's understandable you're tired. She didn't mean well. They left their pool, trampoline and a carport full of junk. My neighbor (we live in the same apartment building) obviously has some mental health issues. These neighbors are an unimaginative lot. He seems to watch for me to come out there with my dog, and he'll scream things out the window at me. The upkeep is paid for by our HOA dues. When I bought my first house I was aware (through a friend who lived on the street) that my next-door neighbor had a disabled adult daughter due to a car wreck who was in a wheelchair and had round the clock care. Reply reply Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Set your neighbor straight as to what is yours and what is hers, and no encroachment will be tolerated. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I responded to a post on a neighborhood Facebook page accusing me of certain things and my mother is mad that I did it and says I look like an AH and embarrassed her. I had just came home from my mothers funeral and my husband had driven separately with our son and was working outside on his car when I got home. After my first birthday party at home where I was trying to awkwardly entertain the parents, serve the food and cake, clean up, supervise, maintain the schedule etc etc when my daughter turned 4, every party after that was at a trampoline park, arcade, the wave pool, an indoor playground, . He showed up on Halloween night at the basketball court where all the kids are trading I think the neighbors were rude for putting OP on the spot and making an unreasonable request. "Daniel" (34m). It's not like the neighbor/friend is asking Lotta to watch a kid or both kids every week. I called her name and she climbed out. I told her she could, but then she held it for the rest of the visit and refused to give it back. NTA. Now my neighbor sees what's going on, and comes to ask about our new internet provider. You have zero obligation to give up your space. She wasn't doing it to be kind. Edit 2: The neighbor and her kids did go in the pool after me. Information about the homes/ occupants. So glad to see this comment because it was my take as well. And then if your neighbor doesn’t file an “Answer” to the complaint, typically you can file for a default judgment. Your neighbor is an entitled ass who thinks the rules of So my neighbor continued to play games with me and called city by-law on me about my pool having standing water. It's almost as tall as the fence, so you can see into it from my neighbours' deck and lots of their windows. And the neighbor mom literally said that she didn't break it. I have never met anyone who has gone in a pool for less than an hour. Yet, sometimes a person reaches an impasse. I told him if it bothers him, he could pay the $100 installation fee and I'll take it down. He got it from a neighbor so he didn't pay a penny for this pool. It's these cakes you throw in the water to keep mosquito larvae off until you can actually deal with emptying the pool. especially if the project is going to take a while. I have an above-ground pool in my backyard. " Now, normally I'm all for being neighborly, but this felt a bit much. I decided to junk it and winterize my sports car. My neighbor Angie (30s F) has refused to hire a babysitter to watch her 1 y/o. ) or I were out at our pool. I explained what I had to go through and that he could do the same if he wanted. I'd maybe do it for a week to be nice but it was horrible having it down for as long as it was with 3 dogs. Their back patio and fire pit are feet away from Two days after the sign went up, my next door neighbor was at my door asking me to remove it because "it looks tacky". There is a local pool/slash water park in my town (town B) that gets pretty popular over the summer. We have double income no kids. He had told friends they too could use the pool and they ended up having a party. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I parked my car half and half into both my parking spots to prevent my neighbors from using my second parking spot. I'm wondering if I'm TAH for not calling him before contacting Early on, shitty-neighbor would park in the extra spot that I let nice-neighbor use. A child had jumped into the pool an began to drown. I’m the “horrible”neighbor because I don’t allow an obnoxious neighbor to go into my woods and play in the creek with her 4 kids. We have a neighbor here who has threatened to shoot kids for ding dong ditching him. ESH. Its a very nice pool and no visitors are allowed to use it unless they Throwaway because I know they are on reddit. Make sure to get your neighbor “served” (in my state this can be done by any person over 18 who’s not a party to the case, check your local laws). However, there's one neighbor, Dave (45M), who has been causing some issues lately, AITA for not allowing my Your neighbor is being ridiculous . My neighbor gave me a dirty look and then i Reddit iOS Reddit Android Reddit Premium About Reddit Advertise Blog Careers Press. they have no right to use a pool that is not theirs. For people that think this is no biggie, I'd say ask someone in law enforcement--they'll tell you how many creepers who don't get caught get bolder & bolder. She should have asked for clarification on that. We never had to worry about getting cooked in the sun. We had our treatment, went to saunas, got lunch. If a car is parked at the pool parking lot, automatic tow. One neighbor mows the side lot for me, one neighbor puts out and another brings in my trash cans every week so when they do need the extra parking they have it. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the a-hole because I won't allow the neighbors (my kids' friends) to play on our trampoline when they are over. It’s a beautiful pool in the back that I had refinished the first year. Otherwise, this neighbor is going to screw you over, especially considering you're paying property taxes on land she's using at her whim. I stood up and marched over to the edge of the pool. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I did initially think it might be inappropriate to wear a bathing suit in front of them, but I chose to wear one anyways because I didn’t care that much, but now I have We had police at our door because my 5 year old got into the neighbor’s mailbox. Organic produce isn’t cheap and theft is theft. OP and the neighbor are in different stages of life and that is ok. She kept her older daughter home from school last week to watch the baby. I replied, "That doesn't make your behavior acceptable. On reddit, sure it's fine, but in real life, nobody needs either of your attitudes. A month later, on day 1 of construction I get the following text: I see u r getting a pool—good for u. we have a pool in our yard that backs up to the neighbor’s backyard and they have NEVER even touched our pool because it’s our property. Taking the posts seriously is heavily discouraged. And then fed your dog and locked up after themselves. Pool closes at 9 - early for my preference - but that's the rule. just because it’s right next to theirs and she can’t afford to fill it does not mean they have a right to use it. I know saying don't stress yourself about it isn't going to do anything, but you are absolutely not a bad person in this. X always let them do it, and again we explained that we were not Mr. "Hey neighbor, I wanted to clear the air with you and reset your expectations. My neighbor had theirs right in the middle where they got all sun. We've also had a concern for the security of the cleaning staff who come after hours. Because of the language barrier with the adult neighbors I figured I would ask here should we be more welcoming and let the neighbor kids play in our house to reciprocate? Or AITA for banning it? I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. I'm 8 months pregnant and getting pretty uncomfortable. Last year 4 people drowned in their pool near me. Being in water helps enormously, so I like to spend a good chunk of time most evenings just floating in The people who BUILT my house (in 1980, pool went in in 1986, and we bought in 2019) originally sold the house because their kids were climbing out of the windows in the 2nd story to jump off the sunroom roof on the first storyinto the shallow end of the pool. The fence is on OPs property, the neighbor had no right to put their plants up or paint on it to begin with. He said it's my internet I should pay it just to avoid having the tacky sign in my yard. Feeling bad about losing my cool with this guy. I’m pretty sure if OP was asked by a male married neighbor to teach his daughter how to knit, and started the same behavior, he wouldn’t be happy. It's not your fault that your neighbor has so many cars. Not great communication skills on the partof OP; and without boundaries the neighbor would just assume things were normal. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1: I'm "causing drama" in the family because my sister wouldn't let my son swim in her pool, and I'm very upset over it and told her she's hurt her relationship with him A place to satirize, crosspost from, poke fun at, and hold meta discussions on the never-ending ridiculous stories and creative writing exercises from AITA and AITA-adjacent subs, including classic tales of your local reddit heroes seeking validation. You did the right thing. wrmbo rbnl ujct jjpa erka ouair kieqnd dxjjk gvayxcs vmkurg